It’s finally here! My book, Tame Your Inner Critic Find Peace & Contentment to Live Your Life On Purpose was released on February 8th. In celebration, this month I am sharing some excerpts with you. I’ve particularly chosen passages that focus on relationships –the relationship we have with ourselves, and the relationships we have with our closest friends and family members.
My belief is that there is only one thing we have control over in any of our relationships and that is our attitude.
We are in relationship with other people, with ourselves, with our job, with the world at large. Everything is interconnected, and the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that we send out into the world magnetize back to us people, events, and circumstances that are in alignment with how we are in the present moment. The result is not always lollipops and roses. Even that would get old after a while. Relationships are the juice, the fodder, for discovering our innate me-ness. So let us look at the relationships in our world. As we study them you will come to a greater awareness of the interplay between relationships and life purpose.
Yes, other people are in your life, but only you can choose how to react to them. You can choose your attitude. You can choose each moment, of every day. A shortened version of the following prose by Charles Swindoll about attitude has hung on my office wall for a number of years. I thought you might like to see the full version from his 1981 radio message series entitled Strengthening Your Grip.
The longer I live, the more I realize the importance of choosing the right attitude in life.
Attitude is more important than facts.
It is more important than your past;
more important than your education or your financial situation;
more important than your circumstances, your successes, or your failures;
more important than what other people think or say or do.
It is more important than your appearance, your giftedness, or your skills.
It will make or break a company. It will cause a church to soar or sink.
It will make the difference between a happy home or a miserable home.
You have a choice each day regarding the attitude you will embrace.
Life is like a violin.
You can focus on the broken strings that dangle,
or you can play your life’s melody on the one that remains.
You cannot change the years that have passed,
nor can you change the daily tick of the clock.
You cannot change the pace of your march toward your death.
You cannot change the decisions or reactions of other people.
And you certainly cannot change the inevitable.
Those are strings that dangle!
What you can do is play on the one string that remains—your attitude.
I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me
and 90 percent how I react to it.
The same is true for you.
Copyright © 1981, 1982 by Charles R. Swindoll, Inc. All rights are reserved worldwide. Used by permission.
You cannot change events that are happening to you, nor can you change the other person. The only thing you can do is change how you react. You, and no one else, are in charge of your thoughts and emotions. Remember back to the branches on your tree of life. See if there is a correlation between the attitude you bring to a specific branch and the strength of that branch.
I would like to suggest that there is only one thing you can change in a relationship, and that is your attitude. You can decide how you react when your boss hands you a task that needs to be completed immediately. Only you can decide if you become aggravated or angry, whether you cuss and scream, or whether you remain calm and unruffled. Only you can decide how you want that relationship to develop. You cannot change your boss. However, you are in charge of you. Choosing your thoughts allows you to choose your attitude, and by choosing your attitude, you choose—every moment of every day—the type of relationship you want to experience.
If you’ve enjoyed this excerpt from the book, I hope you will consider adding it to your must-read list. And I hope you will share this post with a friend or two! Many blessings to you – from my heart to yours.