This month we’re looking at the concept of havingness: being comfortable and accepting of all parts of your life while at the same time wanting more.
We know there are universal laws that are in play on the planet. One of the most familiar universal laws is the Law of Attraction, or that unto itself shall be drawn; like attracts like. You are a gigantic magnet drawing into your reality all the thoughts, feelings, events, and people that are in alignment with your essence. If you hold the belief that the world is a rotten place, you will find yourself surrounded by rotten circumstances. If you believe that you are not worthy of love, you will draw to you people and events that resonate with that frequency of unworthiness.
The beliefs we hold are the foundation of our havingness. To move up to a higher level of havingness, we may need to examine some of our foundational beliefs. As an example, one of my friends had the goal of finishing her Ph.D. thesis this year. She had been struggling with the final wrap up for about three months, and really could not understand why it was taking her so long. She did the Tapping Exercise and tapped out her story of worry and anxiety. What came to her while her tapping session is the following:
“If I look deeply within, I can see that I’m afraid of finishing. I keep procrastinating because I like being in school. It’s comfortable. I know what’s expected of me. Getting a job, even with an advanced degree, means that I will be starting a new chapter of my life. New people, new expectations, new ways of being. School is comfortable, the work world is not.”
She remembered her mother praising her good grades, filling her with words of validation and self-worth. She also remembered her mother dragging in the door after a long day of work, looking tired and beaten. She was able to see that what was holding her back was her limiting belief that the work world was not a comfortable place. Most importantly, she realized that just because her mother had this experience did not mean that her experience would be the same.
She tapped out her mother’s feelings and tapped in new feelings of excitement, self-validation, and reward. She uncovered the belief that was holding her back. By changing that belief, new thoughts, and new vibrations were magnetized into her space. She removed a limiting belief and increased her ability to “have” her goal of finishing school.
What belief is holding you back? Tap on it, write about it, meditate, blow up a rose and increase your level of havingness.
Learn more about tapping in the book, Tame Your Inner Critic Find Peace & Contentment to Live Your Life on Purpose. There’s a great workbook too that is a great way to have fun as you do the exercises of tapping, blowing up a rose and other fantastic energy tools. And as always, thanks for being a part of this journey of discovery – finding ways to live our lives on purpose and in a meaningful way. If this post resonated with you, please share it on your favorite social networks. Every share, like or tweet helps me reach more people who crave support in being as kind to themselves as they are to others.