A day after my son died a life-long friend wrote me this note:
You are no doubt in another world right now. One foot on this earth and the other in the realm of the loss you must be carrying in your heart, while everything that is Rick is swirling though your cells.
Your email is so like you, open, forthright, giving. Thank you for letting me know that your precious boy has died. I am so sorry. If I were with you now I would hold you for some moments to let some of your sorrow flow to me if that would be of any good to you.
Know that your friends and loved ones are thinking of you.
My love to you, Angie
She was so right. I had one foot on this earth while the other foot and most of my body went out into the Spirit World searching for my son.
I was out of it, spacey and not able to concentrate. I was not of this world. But I knew I needed to return to this earth and stay solidly planted here where I belonged. It was not my time to cut the cord with Mother Earth.
As much as I wanted to roam the Other World in the company of my son, I was needed here and now by others in my life. To re-connect to earth, I had to re-establish my grounding cord.
Grounding is a process of connecting the body to the earth’s energies via the root chakra.
The grounding cord is just that – a cord that connects each person to the center of the planet. It runs from the base of the spine all the way down to the center of the earth. Its purpose is to flush away all thoughts, feelings, energies that are not yours and return them to the Source to be cleaned and recycled to their original essence.
When you are feeling spacey, out of it, not able to concentrate, it might be helpful to stop what you are doing at the moment, sit quietly with your feet flat on the floor and close your eyes.
Visualize a hollow tube connected to your hips. It could look like a hollow tree trunk, a stretch of silk, or a heavy metal chain. This tube falls below your feet, descends to the center of the earth, connecting solidly and securely. Let yourself feel this tube anchor itself deeply and securely. Now feel the rush of foreign energy as it leaves your aura and returns to the earth through this grounding cord.
Feel yourself solidly connected to the earth. Feel yourself relaxing, releasing and returning to your normal state of calm, clear focus. Open your eyes.
This technique can be done anytime you need to re-focus and come back to present time. I do it daily and in difficult situations, I can just turn my thoughts to this grounding cord and feel that solid assurance that I am of this planet with both feet firmly grounded in present time.