We’ve all heard stories of people who won the lottery, yet within a few years their money was gone and they returned to their pre-lottery lifestyle. Likewise, there are people who rose too fast in the corporate world, and just when life was wonderful they crashed and burned. These are examples of people unable to have their new-found status.
They probably believed they didn’t deserve to live the life of their dreams. Maybe their inner critic voice was constantly reminding them of times they tried and failed in business, or spent a week’s pay on a frivolous shopping spree.
I don’t want this to happen to you!
This month we’re looking at the process of consciously creating a life full of purpose and meaning. We’ve learned that the first step to living an authentic life and preventing a crash and burn as in the stories above, is to get clear on exactly what you want. In the Be, Do, Have exercise you discovered the events, circumstances and feeling states that bring you joy and allow you to live an authentic life.
The second step to living a life of purpose and authenticity is to claim your right to have that life. That’s right. Plant your flag, stand your ground, give yourself permission to claim the items on your Be, Do Have list. Break through that glass ceiling of not allowing yourself to be all that you can be!
Claiming your authenticity is the process of allowing yourself to “have” this new state of being-ness. In the last post we began the process of understanding this dual state of being comfortable with our current state of affairs, yet at the same time acknowledging that we can have more. This is the dichotomy of havingness: accepting what is and wanting more.
Being in havingness is accepting, with gratitude, the fullness of your life, just as it is, right here, right now, including the not-so-good parts. I know that’s hard. But…if you resist who you are right now, you are in a state of lack, not abundance. You have sent the signal, “I am resisting this, send me more of the same.”
As an example, let’s say that you are single and not happy about the situation. So one of the items on your Be,Do, Have list is finding a life partner. Currently, your days are spent wishing, hoping, and dreaming of finding a life partner. If you are energetically “out there” searching for a mate, you cannot be fully present in your everyday life. You can’t have your current state of being single. You are sending the message to the Universe, “I’m searching for a mate.” And guess what? The Universe sends you energy of the same vibration: searching.
This exercise below will move you from a state of resistance to a state of acceptance and gratitude.
Write down five things that you would like to change about your life. Maybe you don’t like your boss, or your apartment, or your roommate. The following exercise highlights those areas of our life where we have “low havingness,” an inability to be content with our present-time reality.
Exercise: Your Resistance to Current Circumstances
- List the top five things that irk you.
- Spend some time honestly assessing where you are in resistance to your current circumstances. You may be dreaming of a time when life will be different or constantly regretting something you did in the past. Consider whether you are so busy planning your future that you are missing the joys of today.
- Once you have completed the list, use your tools to remove the associated thoughts and feelings from your aura. You might want to refer to this post and tap on the story of why you are unhappy. You might want to put the energy of discontent in a rose and blow up the rose. Or you can send that old baggage of why your life is not the way you want it down your grounding cord. Whatever tool works best for you, use it.
By accepting life as it is, today, right here, right now we are also ready to take our next step in havingness: claiming more.
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