It’s not easy for me to speak my truth. I’m a people pleaser, and I try to make other people feel good, happy and at peace. But what if my wants and needs don’t match up with the other person? Am I able to speak my mind, set my boundaries and stand for my needs at the same time? Not always!
Thoughts and feelings are energy, and energy is meant to flow. Unexpressed emotions and thoughts can become stuck, freezing in place causing unease in the body. We often hear the phrase, “the words were stuck at the back of my throat”, or “I couldn’t get the words out of my mouth”. As we hold this stuck energy as a tension in the body, our throat may feel like cotton or become irritated and scratchy. The jaw may tighten, and our teeth may hurt.
When I first started looking at this energetically, I saw my throat chakra as a big ball of deep blue energy held tightly in place by rubbery looking vines. To me, this symbolized my inability to speak my own truth. The vines kept my communication stilted, “nice”, polite, and non-controversial. The deep blue reminded me of all my shoulds – as in “I should only say what will make the other person feel good’ “I should speak kindly, even if I’m not feeling that way”. I spoke my opinions, often loud and clear, but if someone had a differing opinion, I would back down, acquiescing, giving them the dominant position. I shied away from controversy.
Even today, as my friend and I, were trying to arrange a time to meet, I had a hard time stating my needs clearly and cleanly. But I got through it by imagining those big blue vines loosening up and allowing me more freedom in my speech.
Just a small thing – but living a life full of joy and meaning is finding a way to stand in your power while at the same time being considerate of other people.
So glad you’re here! If you want to learn more about chakras, joy and inner peace, you might be interested in Tame Your Inner Critic, Find Peace & Contentment to Live Your Life on Purpose.