Havingness is this dual state of accepting all that is while wanting more. If we want more from a position of striving or craving – that’s lack. Instead, if we want more from a state of knowingness – believing with all of our heart and mind that the world is an abundant place, and we are worthy of greatness, that’s high havingness.
It took me a long time to understand this fully. Striving, craving, going after all that we want is the American way of life. It’s all about doing, with very little emphasis on the being. Being worthy, being present, being prosperous, even if the outward signs are not there. That is the state of havingness. And as we are something, we will magnetize to us events, people and circumstances that vibrate at that same frequency.
This came home to me as I sat in meditation today. My state of havingness is low right now. A project that I’m working on is not moving forward with the enthusiasm and steam I had hoped for. It’s languishing. Maybe the time isn’t right – maybe next month will be better– maybe it will never soar.
As I sat in meditation and contemplated this, I came to the realization that part of the definition of havingness is accepting all parts of your life as they are, without exception. I realized that I was trying to push the river. I was striving, craving, pushing after something instead of allowing, accepting and being something first. And as we know, one of the universal laws is that like attracts like. If I feel frustrated, pinned down, impatient and angry, then those are the vibrations that I’m sending out to the Universe right now. And of course, the Universe will bring me more of the same – (the Law of Attraction works – although sometimes not the way we want!)
I remembered back to the story of the Carrot Seed. I thought about the little boy who watered his carrot seed full of faith and knowingness, even when others expressed their doubts. I explored the feeling deep within my soul of unworthiness. I blew a ton of roses for pushing instead of allowing. I filled myself in with validation, acceptance, and excitement. I filled myself in with anticipation of what’s to come. Yes, I can ‘have” my current state of life without exception and at the same time want more.
Look around you – at your home, your friends, your money situation, and your job. This is the current state of your havingness. Don’t judge it as not being good enough or wrong. Instead, acknowledge where you are, and then choose to be something else. That’s the miracle – that’s the journey. Use your energy tools to change it up. Get to the bottom of your issue, and then choose to see it differently.
We don’t manifest what we desire; we manifest who or what we are. The being state is the most important factor in how we manifest the life of our dreams. It is all about be-ing. The do-ing, the active part will show up as a result of the way you think and feel.
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