I have a friend that I love dearly, but she’s constantly stirring up drama. Either something just happened to her or she’s talking about what’s happened to someone else. I found that I was at a loss as to how to respond. I didn’t want to hurt her feelings, because when she’s not in drama like this she’s really fun to be around. Yet for me, a main ingredient of living simply is leaving all the drama behind. I don’t need to know who did what to whom and how so and so feels about it. That’s their business, not mine!
So I’ve done two things: first and foremost, I don’t engage in a dialog when she starts in with the rumors and the gossip. I will not participate, and she knows it. I’ve told her so. That was hard, but honest.
As she said to me the other day, “I know you don’t want to hear this, but I need to say it, so I will and I don’t expect a response from you.” Whew! I was released from any responsibility to feel as she does and I could just be her sounding board and allow her to release.
The second thing I do is use my energy tools. I do this with everyone, but especially when I’m surrounded by drama. I use what I call a separation rose to keep the drama energy at bay.
As my friend begins her drama drop, I visualize placing an image of a giant red rose right out in the space between the two of us. I imagine all the drama words, all the energy of judgment of others and criticism going right into that rose. I just watch as the image of the rose fills up with all of her words, thoughts and feelings. None of that energy comes into my space, it all goes into the rose.
When the rose gets so big and full that it’s almost bursting at the seams, I watch it explode and a new rose takes its place. Sometimes I’m so busy watching the rose that I lose track of the conversation. I may be nodding my head or giving her a half smile, but I’m not engaging in the exchange of drama energy.
This works well for both of us – she can vent but I don’t have to take in the venting energies!
And before we part and go our separate ways I do one more thing. I fill in with a golden sun of energies of my choosing. I imagine a golden sun above my head and fill that golden sun with my own life force energy. Then I imagine filling that golden sun with energies that are just to my liking. I might ask for the energies of peace, tranquility, non-judgment and goodwill to fill up that sun. When the golden sun is big and full, I imagine popping it and having all those energies flow down into the top of my head and flow throughout my body and my energy field. I feel those energies of peace, joy, contentment all the way down to the tips of toes and edges of my aura.
As we part company, I am filled up with ME and only me. I carry none of that drama energy away with me.
This is simplicity – simply being me, filled up to the brim and overflowing with energies I choose.
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