One of the most powerful ways of sending love to someone is through the energy of forgiveness. For-giving-space. Forgiveness is about giving space to the people in your life, as well as to you. It is not about condoning behavior; it is about acceptance—that is all.
This excerpt from Tame Your Inner Critic Find Peace & Contentment to Live Your Life on Purpose includes one of the most powerful meditations I’ve ever come across. I share this with you, today, the day of hearts and flowers, as a reminder that the energy of love is one of the most powerful healing energies on this planet. (This excerpt also appeared as a post in October 2014.)
Forgiveness is one of the hardest lessons to learn. It requires you to look at your world with gentleness, patience, and understanding. Here, you stand apart from value statements, judgments, condemnations, and expectations. You give space to those around you to be, just as they are, right here, and right now. In addition, you give space to yourself to be just who you are at this moment.
If you are ready to take a step into this energy of forgiveness, then before you begin the meditation, think of someone who stirs up lots of emotions and feelings for you. You are ready to give this person space to be exactly who they are, but there’s a lot of resistance energy running through your body.
The Blue Room Meditation of Forgiveness
1. Sit in a comfortable chair in a room where you will not be disturbed. Close your eyes and take some deep, cleansing breaths, bringing all of your awareness to the energy surrounding you. Intend for the energy of peace and calm to envelop you in a cocoon of safety and acceptance.
2. Bathe your throat in sky-blue energy. Imagine your throat relaxing so that you will be able to communicate all your thoughts and emotions, completely and clearly.
3. Now, visualize sitting in a room filled with this same expansive blue energy. The walls are blue; the floor is blue, and the air surrounding you is tinted blue. You are sitting in one chair, and there is another chair directly across from you. See that chair. Notice any sensations that arise in your body. Acknowledge those sensations, breathe, and intend to remain in a calm, neutral vibration.
4. The person you would like to forgive will soon occupy that empty chair. Notice any feelings of resentment or stories about the hurts and humiliations that arise in your body. Stop for a moment and ask those feelings to leave your space. Feel calm, clear, and ready to move on. Take as long as you need to clear the emotions and return to a neutral state of being.
5. When you are ready, see the person come into this blue room and sit across from you in the empty chair. Notice if he or she feels a little apprehensive or scared. Maybe they hesitate before taking the seat. Maybe there’s a scowl on their face, or their fists are clenched.
6. Notice how you feel as you watch this person. If you observe some sensations arising in your body, then stop and assess. Imagine those thoughts, feelings, and sensations draining down to the center of the earth. Intend for your body to be relaxed and for the words to flow easily from your throat.
7. Now speak to this person about what is on your mind. Say it all. Tell them how you feel. Feel yourself communicating every single bit of information that you want to share.
8. Then repeat the following phrases aloud:
• I forgive myself, and I forgive you (say their name) for any past wrongdoings and words said in haste or with malice.
• I forgive myself, and I forgive you (say their name) for any and all hurts.
• I look at myself, and I look at you (say their name) with eyes full of compassion and understanding.
• I value myself, with all my quirks and idiosyncrasies, and I value you (say their name) with all your quirks and idiosyncrasies.
• I give myself space to be who I was meant to be, and I give you (say their name) space to be who you were meant to be.
• I love myself, and I love you (say their name).
9. After repeating these phrases, allow the other person a chance to speak. Hear all that he or she has to say to you. Maybe they will share something that will surprise you.
10. When you feel complete, see the other person rise from the chair and leave the room. Sit for a moment in silence and feel this blue room filled with compassion and grace. Allow yourself a moment or two of validation. Then open your eyes and come out of meditation.
For Giving Space. Allowance. Non-judgment. Compassion. Grace. Give others the space to be, and they will give you the space to be who-you-really-are.
If you’ve enjoyed this excerpt from the book, I hope you will consider adding it to your must-read list. And I hope you will share this post with a friend or two! Many blessings to you – from my heart to yours.