I believe there are four keys to living our lives on purpose, and this month we are talking about the first of these keys, havingness. Being in havingness is accepting the fullness of your life, just as it is, including the not-so-good parts, while at the same time knowing that you can have more. I think of it as a prerequisite to living a life full of joy and purpose.
Because if you resist who you are right now, you are in a state of lack, not abundance. You have sent the signal, “I am resisting this, send me more of the same.” And that’s what the Universe does; it sends you more of the same type of experiences you are having right now. By moving out of resistance we move into the energies of peace and inner contentment.
As an example, think of something in your life that you are resisting right now. If you frequently think, “Someday my life will turn around, and I will be happier, or out of debt, or not so alone”, you are in resistance to your present time reality.
Maybe you don’t like your money situation, the relationship you have with a relative, or your job. Now, use your energy tools to move the thought or feeling out of your system. You might want to tap the story of why you are unhappy with your mother-in-law out of your system. Or put the feelings of anger and resentment about your job and your boss in a rose and blow up the rose. Or send the energy of victimhood – of why you don’t have the money you want – down your grounding cord. Whatever tool works best for you, use it.
Havingness is accepting life exactly as it is, right at the moment. It is being in present time, with all of our emotional upheavals. It’s also about being grateful for the lessons we’re learning from the pain, the hurt, or the feelings of abandonment. Acknowledge it. Don’t run away from it. See it. Make peace with what is.
As you make peace with your current circumstances – as you become comfortable “having” your current life – you send out signals of inner contentment and peace. This doesn’t mean you can’t have more, it just means that you are OK with things the way they are. As you accept your current circumstances, without resistance, you increase the level of havingness and shift the patterns of your life. Once you do that, the Universe can match your new found peace and contentment and fill your life with opportunities in alignment with your new level of havingness.
The concept of havingness is explained in detail in Tame Your Inner Critic Find Peace & Contentment to Live Your Life on Purpose. I hope you will consider adding it to your must-read list. And I hope you will share this post with a friend or two! Many blessings to you – from my heart to yours.